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The Breaking of the Glass

Pulished on Oct. 16, 2018

  The Breaking of the Glass

  The end of the public wedding ceremony is marked by the breaking of a

  glass, usually a thin glass wrapped in a napkin to contain the fragments.

  It is smashed under foot by the groom after the seven benedictions, or

  after the rabbi’s address if it follows the benedictions. Some customs placed

  it after the betrothals, but our western tradition is to perform it at the very end.

  Ancient custom designated that one of the wine cups be broken, although

  there was a difference of opinion as to which of the two wine cups. Maharil

  held that it was the nuptials cups, because the breaking immediately followed

  the nuptial blessings. Rema and most others held that it was the betrothal cup,

  and for good reason: Breaking the nuptials cup, over which the seven

  benedictions were recited, is a gross symbol when great concern at this

  moment is for making the marriage, not breaking it. However, once the

  nuptials are recited the betrothal has been accomplished, and the breaking

  of that cup signifies that the nuptials have been satisfactorily completed. The

  author of Match Moshe held that it may be any glass at all. Originally, the

  blessing was recited over a glass cup which was then smashed. But when

  silver cups began to be used, any other glass was used for breaking. One

  commentator held that smashing either of the wine glasses was not an

  auspicious sign and that another glass should be used.

  The general custom that prevails today at traditional weddings is the use of

  a prepared glass or bulb. However, this robs the ceremony of its historic

  beauty and significance. Therefore, it is preferable to use a glass goblet for

  the betrothals and a silver kiddush cup for the nuptials. Immediately after the

  seven benedictions, the rabbi can pour the remaining wine from the glass into

  a prepared bowl, wrap it in a cloth napkin and have the groom place it on the

  floor and crush it.

  Some rabbis were bothered by the problem of bal tashchit, the formidable

  principle of not wasting material needlessly, and also of bizayon kos shel

  berakhah, the "shaming" of the "cup of blessing" by smashing it. But the

  response was that it is neither waste or shame because the very breaking

  conveys important moral ideals. What are these ideals?

  First, we should note that much has been written on the mythology and also

  the psychology of the ceremony. Some of the scholarship is erudite, some

  is trivial popularizing, and little of it is of immediate relevance to the theme

  of this book. Many scholars find the roots of every Jewish observance or idea

  in an alien theology or primitive rite. We are concerned here with the symbol

  as it lives today, and the significance we can derive from its practice.

  The source for the custom is related in the Talmud. Mar, son of Ravina, made

  a wedding feast for his son, and when he noticed that some of the rabbis

  became boisterous in their joy, he brought a precious cup worth four hundred

  zuz, and smashed it before them. This quieted them down immediately. Rabbi

  Ashi also made a wedding feast for his son, and when he noticed that the

  rabbis were boisterous, he brought a cup of white glass and smashed it before

  them and immediately they sobered. Rashi said the breaking was of a white

  wine cup and that only that kind of glass could be used for the ceremonial

  breaking; theTosafists derived from this the prevalent custom of breaking any

  glass utensil at every wedding service.

  What is the reason? From the Talmud it would appear that breaking the glass

  served to engender sobriety and balanced behavior. Psalms 2:11 says,

  "Serve the Lord with fear, and rejoice with trembling". Rabbi Ada ben Matanah,

  interpreted in Rabbah’s name: Bime’kom gilah, sham te’hei re’adah, "Where

  there is rejoicing, there should be trembling." A wedding should not be sheer

  undisciplined merriment, and the breaking of expensive glass stunned the

  guests into tempering their gaiety. The ceremony serves, then, to moralize

  pleasure and attain tempered emotions.

  In the fourteenth century, the author of Kol Bo offered another explanation.

  The broken glass represents the wreckage of our past glory, and the

  destruction of the ancient Temple in Jerusalem in the first century. It recalls,

  at the most joyous and momentous occasion of the life cycle, that there is a

  continuing national sadness. It is a memory of Zion that stands as a reminder

  that in life great joy can be cancelled by sudden grief. It enriches the quality

  of joy by making it more thoughtful and by inspiring gratitude for the goodness

  of G-d.

  It is customary to recite the following words when breaking the glass: "If I forget

  Thee, O Jerusalem, may my right hand fail... at the height of my joy." Sephardic

  Jews, and also many of Ashkenazic descent, recite this phrase at the

  performance of an analogous custom during the wedding, the placing of

  a bit of ash on the groom’s forehead. This sign of mourning is placed at

  the site of thetefillin—the ash of bereavement (efer), in place of the glory

  which signifies tefillin(pe’er).

  Perhaps a deeper significance can be realized if, as the groom’s action

  recalls the demolished house of G-d, the now-married couple takes it as

  an obligation upon themselves to rebuild the Temple in their own lives by

  building their own Jewish home, as every synagogue is a mikdash meat,

  a miniature temple. The Sages say that all that is left of the Temple today

  are dalet amot shel Halakhah, (the four ells of Torah law). If the home we

  build will house the spirit and practice of these four ells, we will have

  contributed to the rebuilding of the Temple in our own way and in our own

  homes.

  How unfortunate it is, therefore, that the phrase of Jerusalem’s destruction

  is rarely recited and, instead, a chorus of mazal tov’s greets the breaking

  of the glass. If the reason for the glass breaking is to temper joy, this is

  surely inappropriate; if the reason is to recall a national tragedy, it is vulgar.

  Often not only is a joyous mazal tov sounded, but a licentious sneer that it

  is a "good sign" if the glass is smashed at the first try. This elicits gross

  comments regarding the groom’s prowess. The late Sephardic Chief Rabbi

  of Israel, Ben Zion Ouziel, wished that he could have abolished the custom

  for this very reason. In fairness, however, it should be noted that the mazal tov

  is not so much in response to the breaking of the glass, as it is to the end of

  the ceremony. In any case, it would be less than responsible to eliminate a

  millennial tradition because of some people’s untutored reaction to it. Perhaps

  we should reinstitute the reference to Jerusalem and move the glass breaking

  back to the middle of the wedding ceremony.

  The two fundamental reasons lead us to another insight derived from this

  ceremony—the magnificent, sensitive balance within Judaism that testifies

  to its rich maturity and to its suitability to the whole range of human emotions.

  It connects the private moment under the chuppah with the public national

  event of the Temple, the ancient past with thoughts of a long future, heady

  joy with a tragedy bewailed for nineteen hundred years. The breaking of a

  glass at the symbolic moment that celebrates making a new home, is also

  reminiscent of the Talmud’s assertion that "joining two people in marriage

  is as difficult as splitting the sea."

  Through the ages, other homilies were derived from the ceremony. Tzafenat

  Pa’neah suggests the hope that the breach in the relation between G-d and

  Israel caused by the Temple’s destruction will be repaired just as a broken

  glass can be repaired by melting under the glazier’s fire. G-d’s marriage with

  the Jewish people will be unbroken, as will the marriage of these children of

  G-d to one another.

  Rabbi Bachya traces this custom, as so many other marriage customs, to the

  revelation on Sinai. What joy is greater than the wedding, in the private lives

  of this bride and groom? What joy is greater in the religious lives of the people

  Israel than the simchat Torah, the exquisite moment at Sinai? At Sinai, there

  was the tragic breaking of the tablets of the commandments at the foot of the

  mountain; at the wedding simchah there is a symbolic breaking of the glass

  under foot. Every new family helps repair the breach at Sinai—the breaking,

  in joy, at every wedding overcomes the breaking of the tablets.

  Contemporary preachers have suggested new meanings for this closing

  ceremony. The fasting in repentance before the wedding and the purification

  from the stains of the past in the mikveh is symbolized in the crushing of the

  glass, which represents a final, dramatic breaking with the past. A full life is

  the cup from which we drink. It is a "cup of blessing," one which we use to

  celebrate Sabbaths and festivals. A life that is filled to the brim with meaning

  is the life for which we strive.